"The game of life, like every game, is played within the framework of certain rules, and any violation of those rules carries a penalty. You and I are playing this game from morning to night, and should therefore learn its rules in order to play it well." ~Neville Goddard
All this week, I encountered many African Americans who are losing in the game of life. Now, don't get me wrong, we have many success stories to be proud of, but there is a segment of the African American community that is suffering needlessly simply because they don't understand how to properly navigate life. There are many reasons behind this, be it social, structural, political, or economic reasons. However, I would like to address an issue that we can control; and that is: starting families that we are unable to properly provide, train, and care for.
I see it all the time, but this week, all I saw were young unmarried women with four or five children who were clearly apart of the Black working class or the Black under class. Most of the children were unruly or did not know how to properly behave in public, the mothers were clearly frustrated, and we the public were highly annoyed. Some of us even displayed some form of pity for those children. I am convinced that many of us were asking ourselves the same question: Why would you have children that you cannot support, cannot adequately train, and cannot properly educate? Why?
I've read all of the books and studies about this issue, yet, I just cannot understand why someone would condemn another generation to a sub par life. Where is the determination to do better, be better, or to provide better?
Other successful groups have shown us the way to success: The pooling of shared resources, the value of marriage, no children until the married couple is financially stable, a push to excel educationally, and a commitment to raise their children. These ingredients usually produce successful children who in turn become successful adults who in turn build successful communities. Yet many of us, not all, are doing the exact opposite. The results of rebellion to tried and true principles has produced a Black underclass that even African Americans themselves are tired of seeing and dealing with.
I wish that I could end this post on an upbeat note, but I can't. I want the best for these children, yet, in my heart, I know that without intervention, it probably won't turn out so well for them. More needless casualties in the game of life.
Bonnie Donaldson, MBA/MLS